Are you the master or the slave of your life? Often times, we
think we are masters of our lives, but in fact we are only slaves. You are the
master only when you have complete control over your life. Are you the master
or just the slave?
In
this day and age of speed, it is easy to lose control over your life, leading
to chaos.
How do you gain control over your life in terms of your profession, time, and
daily stress? It is not easy because most of us have a conditioned mindset
that we must do this and do that in order to succeed in life. In our
subconscious minds, we want to do well, and to do well, we must set goals; to
reach our goals, we must exert efforts. After accomplishing one goal, we need
to set another higher goal, and yet another one higher than the previous one.
In the end, lives get complicated and out of control; as a result, we are no
longer masters but slaves to what we have accomplished for ourselves.
Don't
let your life careen out of control, and don't live a life with a life of
its own. Get your life back in order. It may not be that easy; it
requires a little wisdom in living.
According
to Dr. Ronald Nathan, coauthor of The Doctors' Guide to
Instant Stress Relief, the essence of control is your "feeling of in
control." That is to say, you confidently believe that
there is a purpose in your life, no matter what. With that mindset, you will
begin to see things in different perspective: even temporary setbacks will no
longer interfere with your long-range visions now that you feel you
are in control. To cultivate that “feeling of in control,” you must learn how
to act confident in your attitude and body language in
whatever you do. Dr. Nathan believes that 80 percent of communication involves
body language, while verbal only accounts for only 20 percent.
According
to communication expert Germaine Knapp, do the following:
Sit or
stand erect (posture and breathing play a pivotal part).
Maintain
eye contact.
Unfold
your arms and legs.
Be
more expressive in your body language, e.g. nodding your head when you say
"yes."
To
enhance your confidence of “feeling in control,” cultivate awareness of self
and others. Learn to live in the present to develop that awareness. Unfortunately,
many of us don't live in the present but in the future with
"expectations" that often fail us, creating fear of failure, and
hence the daily stress to do more that makes life careen out of control.
In
addition to awareness, learn to take little bites in your life to facilitate
living in the present; that is, don't bite off more than you can chew. Doing
one thing at a time, instead of multi-tasking, not only decreases pressure but
also increases adaptability as well as productivity. Don’t create the vicious
circle of accomplishing one goal after another.
According
to clinical professor Stephen Weinstein, "it is an endless
cycle, and they never feel they accomplish much of anything." Blame your
parent, who might have erroneously believed that your worth is measured by what
you do, and not by who you are; over the years, they might have inculcated that
idea in your mind.
Lao
Tzu,
the ancient Chinese sage, said we should not "over-do" but, instead,
do what is only necessary. There is little wisdom in "the sky is the
limit" or "I can do anything." Don't simply believe that putting
your nose to the grindstone will make you succeed; it won't! There is no such
thing as an "A" for effort for success.
Remember,
success has to do with who you are, and not what you do. Don't use up your
body's resources and compromise your immune system; stress and stress-related
diseases (most diseases originate from stress) are hurdles and stumbling blocks
on the way to success, if you decide to take that journey
Remember, a master can go anyway and anywhere, while a slave
only follows the master.
FREEDOM with BONDAGE shows you how to "free" yourself from your bondage to the flesh and be the master, and not the slave.
Stephen Lau
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by Stephen Lau
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